now let's look at this hypothetical situation....a man needs to buy a house, he procures money for it, buy's it, and lives in it.
the man had been motivated to make the money by the prospect of living in his own, nice house. this is a brilliant thing and should be praised and commended because this leads to the development and strengthening of the man and his confidence in himself...
so nine inch nails are coming for their last concert to singapore in august....befor ethe y go on indefinite hiatus....
i did some calculations, it should cost me max 15,000 for the trip, going, coming, the concert ticket, everything...
i talked to my parent's, asked them if they could help me, they seemed skeptical, i thought "maybe they don't want to spend 15,000 on something i want and they don't understand the importance of, alright"
i gave them an option, that I'll work hard the two months that im in Gwalior tutoring kids (a firend of mine is teaching C++ and earning about 4K a month) also i ahve some savings...told them i should be able to afford it myself.
now comes the strange part, they said 'no'.
my parent's, choose to suppress my aspirations, because they think that "it's reckless to be going to another country for just a concert, and a waste of money"
who's money? their money? or my money? why would i ever want to make money except for myself? do i have a wife and kids to support? would the money have been made if i didn't want to spend on myself?
a selfish act committed for the sole reason of fulfilling one's personal wishes is always condemned by everyone....
a 'house' is justified for some reason becasue it's something every man should be working towards, because it's the decent thing to do...and provides shelter to your family...
but a 'concert' is suddenly a pretty horrible thing to do....because it's a large sum of money, not spent on anything your parent's can tell their friends about...nobody wants to tell their friends "my son saved money to go to singapore for a concert for one day and come back the next"
i'd have been proud of my son if he ever told me that he's going to work his ass off to make so much money to go see a concert he wanted....
i have never been more disappointed with anybody.....and they've totally changed my view about them tonight.
i was very driven in my head for a few moments about the work...until my parent's killed all my motivation because they think it's 'wrong' to spend one's own hard earned money on personal pleasures, and they're not gonna let me even if i do make the money.
...what can i say, i guess the only person i can look to for motivation is me...
