2 posts tagged “love”

I happened to 'store' that quote in a certain text file where I put interesting bits of text, it's attributed to one 'Ani DiFranco', no idea who she is,

Well, it's just my views on the topic now…

You might have seen girls/women/human females of all ages say one day something  on the lines of

"oh my god I've been such a slut, I've been with so many different boys"

"oh people must think im a  whore, with a different boy every year"

Something like that…so my question is, why do you care?

It's obviously very saddening to hear utterances like this, because why oh why would you want to refer to yourself by derogatory words used by the most prudish, most uninteresting people in your life? Why would you want to impress people with your boring life? And why is your boring life any more precious and worthwhile than even that of a stripper? Who on the other hand, is a person who does what she's good at to earn her living?

Im not saying this in a humorous way, this isn't a build up to an  elaborate "oh girls, be promiscuous, cheat on your boyfriends with me" joke

Of course we've heard about the "there's no male word for 'slut' "conundrum, but why should there be even one for women?

At the end of it all, ladies, even your disapproving parents and aunts won't be with you, it'll be just you and your memories of all the experiences you've missed…

This isn't about 'not sticking to someone', if you find the person you think you want to spend the rest of your life with, go ahead, spend it. maybe that's your way of saying you've found love…and your life is complete. Nothing wrong with that…

Also, there's nothing wrong with falling in love many times, whatever your definition of 'love' may be.

But don't spend it stuck, and don't spend it dependent, any women getting married in this day and age, the year 2009, I consider you quite the failure if you're just living with your husband who earns for you and not doing anything with the education your parents probably got for you to stand on your own feet. You have no right to be so useless in this society where every man creates an identity in the form of what they 'do' for a living, I'd be horrified to have a woman in my life who when asked her occupation said 'housewife' or 'socialite', but that's just me...

Yes, your identity lays in 'what' you do and not in 'who' and 'how many' you do….

So if I had to choose between a 'sit at home, decent housewife, who's proud of the fact that im the only one she's ever been with' and a woman who is not an idiot, I'd choose the latter….

Because if promiscuity is nothing more than travelling, I'd rather travel. Yes I know, you might say  "this is what every man wants to do anyway", well, it's usually not a 'man' thing, it's a 'human' thing….we all seek adventure…and in my journey, I'd like to meet other 'travelers', not someone who's scared of what people will think of them if they left their house….

Of course being in as few relationships as you can isn't a bad thing at all, if that's what makes you happy…do it, just don't do it for the wrong reasons.

general affection, when received regularly from someone...tends to get taken for granted and looked at with an "ugh, this is so unnecessary!!"

general affection, when not being received, makes the un-receiver want to kill for some of it...

i wish i knew what it felt like to know, that somebody is madly in love with me....

that's one more thing i haven't...erm...'tried' yet...as if it can be tried...experienced...whatever...

bleh...

it so doesn't help knowing that being greedy is all that's depressing me....