3 posts tagged “opinions”

feeling bored? go watch a movie, any movie in the theatre...and don't expect anything out of it....

i went to see one 'delhi 6' recently, i was bored and didn't wanna go home...this movie made my day :) ....strange characters , funny dialogue...and a weird, no frills 'jump from here to there' story....it was hilarious how annoyed abhishek bacchan's character would get :) even in the most, erm...'serious' of situations...

well, these things happen :) can't deny that, people are stupid, they'd believe anything that's hyped enough, whether it be a 'kaala bandar' or a 'non maharashtrians are taking our jobs!' story....so, although the story was entirely made up, it was believable...atleast for me, i love getting lost in the movie's world...you gotta believe in fiction man....be a little less cynical....who cares anyway?? it's bollywood :) there's an uncanny sort of humor in everything...also, other emotions, there's such large amounts of emotion in these movies....also, the ending wasn't depressing, so i come out happy, and entertained :) and satisfied with my 100 odd bucks....

i would like to emphasise on the 'watch a movie in the theatre' part because it makes a huge difference when you're in a comfortable seat and don't have the option to go do something else, then you'll sit, and enjoy the movie!!! and try going for it alone...yes, in the theatre, alone....it's very different...

i have been told many times (and it is generally said) that "to get what you want, you have to put in some extra effort", now, what's the limit to this? many things like, talking politely, being chivalrous, dressing well, managing things properly, come under 'extra effort', and they're usually done to attract positive views from onlookers...but what if it goes against your general behavior? if im generally cranky, i'd find it odd myself to be overly polite, or talk sweetly to people...or compliment people to make them like me. say nice things. it's just, odd and fake!! it's like saying "this isn't me, but to win your heart, im gonna be like this" i like being chivalrous, helpful and nice to people i care about, and say nice things to people who deserve it...especially compliments...i won't say that you look nice unless i think you do. and if you look ugly, no you wouldn't hear me say that to you either, maybe in a helpful way...but never the opposite...

'extra effort' in my opinion, should not be thrown around so freely...i'd not like to sweet talk to every person i know. because too much visible 'effort' puts me in the position, that when i really mean to say something from the bottom of my heart, it can get mistaken for 'extra effort'. i want to make sure that when someone sees me being nice to them, they beleive that it's not a bloody act. becasue i don't 'act' or play 'games', i loathe these things. i don't want to be 'generally' nice...if you see me being nice to a large group of people. then be assured that i feel something for that group of people. if im rude and cranky, save the corrective speeches. im no saint and neither am i claiming to be one.

you hang out with the same kind of people all the time, you tend to be like them, if they're nice, you tend to be nice, if they're always ethical, you tend to be ethical.

then you go hang out with a different group of people who are just...different...then the angle changes. drastically.

I've spent some time recently with people who think like me, who's opinions i respect for all their unsafeness, who i can say...are the most unreliable pieces of shits ever and i love them for it :) it's a nice thought...

now the people back home seem so tied down and controlled, and by that i mean....they look like they're constantly contemplating their next words so that they can say what is best according to 'the rest of the world'. they always wanna be on the safer side.

i hate these conversations that start with the intention of 'making conversation for the sake of it', these start with a sudden   ugh....people find verbal communication so necessary, words just mess things up man!! just sit there...we don't always need to talk...you don't need to know how my day was, and frankly, it just makes me feel stupid looking for material in my head to answer your small talk questions...

i do things, i learn from them...i talk about them without withholding information...because i am not one of those who will tell you a modified version of the events in my life just so the image of me in your head remains clean and nice. everyone judges, so do i. if you don't like me for something i do. stop acting like you're worried. if im not worried, it doesn't matter to me. it's all fake. it always will be.

the only real cause for anyone's depression is other people, whether it's the lack of their presence or the actions they do. i say fuck people man!! isn't it easier, just, not depending? we let people mold us, become our weaknesses...scold us, judge us, and control us.there's too much of a social game going on at all times. where everyone wants to be noticed and liked by everyone...people base their lives on the pursuit of letting everyone know "im a really nice guy!!" about them...don't man. stop trying to please everyone. it's the most disgusting quality. barely tolerable. if you genuinely have something nice to say, say it.i usually don't have too many bad things to say about people, really, i believe in people not being completely hopeless a LOT, however pessimistic i may sound otherwise, this was pointed out to me by a friend (garima) and it's so bloody true!! if A says about B "B is such a bad dresser" I'll think of my own personal opinion of the person, and something positive like "no man, B has his own style, even though it sucks sometimes, at least he looks comfortable in it and not fidgety and too worried about his appearance all the time" would come to my mind. now i, am not trying to 'please' someone, im just being honest...if i hated B's dressing sense too (i don't HATE too many things, holding grudges is hard work) i'd just say "haha, yeah..." but i don't agree with too many people, some people have weird opinions that you can't contest/give your side about, but you can just stand there and respect the opinion in a "whatever makes you happy man" way....that's the best way...seriously.

"when people agree with me it makes me feel like i am wrong" - oscar wilde (just read it somewhere, don't remember how it goes exactly, could just be this)