17 posts tagged “people”
Some people think that doubt is a problem. I don't think so! We get doubts, and i feel that doubts are good!
I happened to 'store' that quote in a certain text file where I put interesting bits of text, it's attributed to one 'Ani DiFranco', no idea who she is,
Well, it's just my views on the topic now…
You might have seen girls/women/human females of all ages say one day something on the lines of
"oh my god I've been such a slut, I've been with so many different boys"
"oh people must think im a whore, with a different boy every year"
Something like that…so my question is, why do you care?
It's obviously very saddening to hear utterances like this, because why oh why would you want to refer to yourself by derogatory words used by the most prudish, most uninteresting people in your life? Why would you want to impress people with your boring life? And why is your boring life any more precious and worthwhile than even that of a stripper? Who on the other hand, is a person who does what she's good at to earn her living?
Im not saying this in a humorous way, this isn't a build up to an elaborate "oh girls, be promiscuous, cheat on your boyfriends with me" joke
Of course we've heard about the "there's no male word for 'slut' "conundrum, but why should there be even one for women?
At the end of it all, ladies, even your disapproving parents and aunts won't be with you, it'll be just you and your memories of all the experiences you've missed…
This isn't about 'not sticking to someone', if you find the person you think you want to spend the rest of your life with, go ahead, spend it. maybe that's your way of saying you've found love…and your life is complete. Nothing wrong with that…
Also, there's nothing wrong with falling in love many times, whatever your definition of 'love' may be.
But don't spend it stuck, and don't spend it dependent, any women getting married in this day and age, the year 2009, I consider you quite the failure if you're just living with your husband who earns for you and not doing anything with the education your parents probably got for you to stand on your own feet. You have no right to be so useless in this society where every man creates an identity in the form of what they 'do' for a living, I'd be horrified to have a woman in my life who when asked her occupation said 'housewife' or 'socialite', but that's just me...
Yes, your identity lays in 'what' you do and not in 'who' and 'how many' you do….
So if I had to choose between a 'sit at home, decent housewife, who's proud of the fact that im the only one she's ever been with' and a woman who is not an idiot, I'd choose the latter….
Because if promiscuity is nothing more than travelling, I'd rather travel. Yes I know, you might say "this is what every man wants to do anyway", well, it's usually not a 'man' thing, it's a 'human' thing….we all seek adventure…and in my journey, I'd like to meet other 'travelers', not someone who's scared of what people will think of them if they left their house….
Of course being in as few relationships as you can isn't a bad thing at all, if that's what makes you happy…do it, just don't do it for the wrong reasons.
typed up around 11:58 p.m, 11th july, saturday
So I'm surrounded by kids at a strange party, one's talking about how cool it is that 'the undertaker' dies and comes back to life after/before every fight, and trying to assert that he has 'the facts' about this.
And there's another kid, a girl, talking about another girl who seems to have disappeared, and trying to prove that she committed suicide (somehow every disappearance at that age translated to a suicide)
This is absolute hell, so glad I got the iPod.
(Typed on the iPod)
After all, how much smiling can a man do?
I'm glad none of these kids know that my iPod has games, i look like every other man here with a QWERTY keyboard phone going through mid-life crisis, minus the crisis. (none of these 'business phones' are used for any business other than facebook) Feels good to be young, but not the youngest here. I had to refrain from making quite a lot of 'mid life crisis' jokes though, some gems, which had to be buried :)
I am being stared at though (got earphones in me ears) one of these kids has a wonderful capability of being able to scream at pitches higher than I've ever seen any other human achieve.
Another interesting thing worth noticing is how many ways people manage to make known the money they've been spending. With the long power cuts upon us, everybody now has the opportunity to tell a story about the huge investments they've made in 'generators' and 'air conditioners'.
Ah, kids are playing with a rubber ball, asking for a 're' because the ball bounced off my leg, tough luck for the guy throwing...
i hear about it in the news, i see it talked about, something that used to be a topic of hilarity, now seems to be a 'criminal' offense,
now, i've never ragged anyone (no moral reason, just not interested) and was ragged a normal amount wherever i've been...and i've seen around me, when joining an institution with other 'freshers', that everyone dreaded what was inevitably coming to them...
it is, a fucking, rite of passage! everyone was ragged before us, they survived...i believe how you handle ragging very much shows how you're going to handle other situations in your life. it is the first of many 'deep shits' you're going to find yourself in throughout your life, deal with it. also, later in life, these 'raggers' won't eventually become your friends, they'll be after your neck for their profits. so learn something. if you're scared of people who's basic intent of making you suffer is entertainment, then you're gonna fail, miserably....when you meet people who want to eradicate you. because they, are going to succeed. because you, wouldn't be able to handle it.
and trust me, if ragging makes you go commit suicide out of 'humiliation' , then the world is better off without you...you're too weak. good riddance.
(this is in no way a rebuttal to the recent events at SICSR, these have been my views since i became aware of the act of ragging)
now let's look at this hypothetical situation....a man needs to buy a house, he procures money for it, buy's it, and lives in it.
the man had been motivated to make the money by the prospect of living in his own, nice house. this is a brilliant thing and should be praised and commended because this leads to the development and strengthening of the man and his confidence in himself...
so nine inch nails are coming for their last concert to singapore in august....befor ethe y go on indefinite hiatus....
i did some calculations, it should cost me max 15,000 for the trip, going, coming, the concert ticket, everything...
i talked to my parent's, asked them if they could help me, they seemed skeptical, i thought "maybe they don't want to spend 15,000 on something i want and they don't understand the importance of, alright"
i gave them an option, that I'll work hard the two months that im in Gwalior tutoring kids (a firend of mine is teaching C++ and earning about 4K a month) also i ahve some savings...told them i should be able to afford it myself.
now comes the strange part, they said 'no'.
my parent's, choose to suppress my aspirations, because they think that "it's reckless to be going to another country for just a concert, and a waste of money"
who's money? their money? or my money? why would i ever want to make money except for myself? do i have a wife and kids to support? would the money have been made if i didn't want to spend on myself?
a selfish act committed for the sole reason of fulfilling one's personal wishes is always condemned by everyone....
a 'house' is justified for some reason becasue it's something every man should be working towards, because it's the decent thing to do...and provides shelter to your family...
but a 'concert' is suddenly a pretty horrible thing to do....because it's a large sum of money, not spent on anything your parent's can tell their friends about...nobody wants to tell their friends "my son saved money to go to singapore for a concert for one day and come back the next"
i'd have been proud of my son if he ever told me that he's going to work his ass off to make so much money to go see a concert he wanted....
i have never been more disappointed with anybody.....and they've totally changed my view about them tonight.
i was very driven in my head for a few moments about the work...until my parent's killed all my motivation because they think it's 'wrong' to spend one's own hard earned money on personal pleasures, and they're not gonna let me even if i do make the money.
...what can i say, i guess the only person i can look to for motivation is me...
It just so happens that the term 'nerd' or 'geek' is used for people who are usually very intelligent and, know a lot about a lot of productive things…but are usually not very good with the opposite sex…a geek (or anyone) could possibly put in some effort into going out and meeting people and initiating a kind of attraction towards him/her but they either choose not to or believe they can't…
Well I believe that this, is what makes one more productive than the typical person…if you don't believe in putting a lot of effort into attracting the opposite sex, there are tons of other things you can put your mind into…
It puts you aside from those obsessed with thoughts like 'how do I look?' , 'are those people laughing at me?' , 'I don't look good no?' and so on…
A person obsessed with his/her behavior and appearance is the biggest turn off, atleast for me…a person not obsessed, on the other hand….is bloody intriguing :) there's so much more to our efforts and capacities than 'dressing up' and impressing a bunch of girls…
Look at this hypothetical situation - in a group of guys, maybe put together for, say, a presentation, there are two-three slightly overweight guys, who don't give a damn about chatting up girls, and are happy discussing the latest strategy in a multiplayer game…and one, just one….good looking guy who has to go flirt around with every girl possible…
It's a recipe for disaster….good looks = low productivity
The 2-3 non good-lookers would be utterly frustrated with this good looking man, who by default, would patronize them when they ask him to do his job…it's, a pretty horrible situation. Ego's clash, urges to punch in the mouth occur…
It's just bad. And the good-lookers/good with women people always think that they're better…this is never said out loud, but it's bloody clear!! This world is only superficial….
The better looking people know, that they're capable of things the people below them can't even fathom….and they'll always be cut a lot of slack…
I wish all the good lookers get fat, ruthless bosses wherever they work…hehehehe…
Ok.
Vent over.
i wanted to go for a walk, but decided to write something instead to vent my depression...
ah well, let's see...i think im at that point when i think maybe i should play a game to kill time and distract myself and automatically my brain tells me "these games are just linear pieces of code and you know you're gonna get frustrated within a few minutes" same with a movie, i can imagine what the movie will be like before i even start watching it...
one big problem is the fact that none of these things are being done in place of something else I'd rather be doing, e.g - studying....it's always more fun to do things like 'watching a movie' or 'playing a game' just before an exam :) because of the age old saying 'the grass is always greener on the other side' (i know it's a very, very broad perspective but that is what the basic criteria is) if you are supposed to be 'sitting and studying' then 'sitting and watching a movie' seems better...because once you have something, it's not that much fun...it's always better when it's just a little 'illegal' :) the temptation builds up, the fact that you're actually doing the activity seems more fun than the activity itself...
"i wanna do something fun" is the general outcry here...but there are so many damn conditions around that it just seems so far....sigh...
when somebody says "nobody understands me", I'd like to say to them "so, you really think anything is going to change once they do?"
people don't change. only your perceptions of them do.
this night sucks.
Many times we find ourselves facing a situation where we have to say something to someone, or ask them a certain question but to due to the nature or content of the query or implication, we can't do so without offending them….
Thus we have to 'phrase' the matter in such a way that makes us look different than what our mind is really feeling.
I don't want to put this whole muddle under the umbrella of 'diplomacy' because it isn't exactly that, a person being diplomatic does so to reach some pre-determined ends….using the 'diplomacy' as their means….
But a person faced in this 'situation', usually really wants to say what's on his/her mind….but has to choose otherwise to avoid an argument.
If everyone spoke the absolute truth, nobody would be able to stand their 'friends'.
As college ends, I see a lot of people around me desperately trying to 'do something fun'.
People seem to be in the phase of 'make some awesome memories' now...
Let's observe what 'routine' means, a routine is what we all follow, now 'following a routine' doesn't sound like a very fun thing to do…but it is something you have to do, it is unavoidable and inevitable.
When in college, we follow a routine of classes, other activities like eating out, going for movies…these are all part of your routine…
As a crack addict you follow the routine of getting your fix, and working towards your next one..
As a beggar, you follow the routine of going to your usual places for alms…
As a hippie 'spiritualist' traveler (say, in Goa, or Pune's Koregaon Park) you follow the routine of doing your yoga, your meditation, sitting around at your usual place and having tea, etc etc…
After college, your routine can be anything from 'looking for a job' to 'cooking up new excuses everyday for your mother as to why you don't have a job yet'
If you're an avid clubber…dressing up, picking a place to go to, dancing around, is your routine...
You are never free, and by that I don't mean 'bound' in a any way, you will choose a routine, whatever suits you (even one's that don't suit you, due to the need for money, or peer pressure)
A routine essentially means a set of activities you do, repeatedly…with little change…and all this sounds very boring…but it's not, let's see why...
In this routine, whatever you choose to follow…there is one element that is ever changing, the human element, because whatever routine you might choose to follow, this routine, or parts of it, are followed by others, thus you tend to interact with these others and become closer to some…
Thus your routine becomes less tiring, the monotony is not what your mind focuses on…"That's what friends are for".
These are what we call 'friends', you'll make some friends in high school, you'll make some in college, and you'll make some during your work hours when you get a job…
Maybe you even won't make too many friends, you can say that your routine then consists of 'doing everything to avoid people' :)
So these 'friends', they help us create 'memories', memories for some can be those of times during their routine in the form of "fun times in class" or "fun times at work" (which generally consist of everything besides 'studying' and 'working', well, as I mentioned, that's what friends are for)
So when you have to leave, after college…or high school…or any of these routines…there's really no point cribbing about it.
We all know that it's not realistically possible to keep everybody in your life from your previous routines, I'm in touch with very few high school friends I care to stay in touch with, same is going to happen with college…you choose favorites…most of the time according to convenience, and how much ever you might deny it, need/use (we are all businessmen at heart looking out for our own interests).
But the point here is, getting overly attached to people from your old routines is futile…even more futile is trying to create 'last minute memories'…
The Friends we make are the byproducts of the routines we follow, we know them and care to interact with them directly because of the routine we choose to follow…
So when we choose to switch the routine (it happens over time by itself, in most cases…) we are inevitably going to have to 'shed' some friends…why see it as a catastrophic event?
There comes a time in your life when you decide to go DTA ("Don't Trust Anybody")
It is a very productive and un-harming way to go…people might say "you're being a coward, you'll never learn anything or go anywhere if you can't let yourself trust people!!", all I can say is, I've learned enough, and 'gone' to some pretty excessive lows….so I think it's pretty wise to switch now.
Im not gonna fill this up with a sad story about my 'learning experiences' that involved trusting people, but they were very good lessons :)
Reminds me of a line from the 'Better Than Ezra' song 'overcome':-
"I'm a little bit wiser, I'm a little bit sadder, I'm a little bit less you might have guessed"
'wiser' is the keyword here….people suck. most people will always bring you down and turn out to be horrible liabilities and an utter waste of emotion…
To decide to take care of yourself before everyone else, is very, very productive…because nobody else is gonna do it, and if anybody does want to do it, they should learn to take care of themselves before you too…
Being polite and nice is ok, but you can't keep justifying to yourself that the other person needs your help, in most cases they don't, and you're just weakening them by giving it to them…
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